If you spend any time with a third wave feminist, you will
probably hear or see the phrase “girls supporting girls” (or “women supporting
women”) at some point. This statement has become a pillar of the third wave,
such that it’s become more of a platitude than a call for action as it was
originally intended. It’s written in Instagram comments, on “feminist” merchandise”
(quotes because I'm skeptical of any commercialized feminism), and used in
casual conversation when women discuss other women. In case you doubt the
prevalence of this phrase, I’ve included a screenshot from redbubble’s website;
under the “stickers” category, I’ve searched “girls supporting girls” and as you
can see highlighted in yellow, there are over 1,000 results! Apparently, a lot
of women just really want to uplift each other! I’d argue that in theory, and usually
in practice, this is a great thing—though I would also argue that sometimes the
execution of this idea is misguided. However, what is of importance for this
post is that this rhetoric isn’t new—the sentiment can be traced all the way
back to 14th century—and the comparisons between proto-feminist and modern feminist thought reveal some important truths about the rhetoric surrounding social movements.
Before we talk about the history of feminist rhetoric,
however, we should ask: why exactly do women need to support one another? That’s
not really a question I want to answer in full right now because I don’t think
it really adds to this course’s focus; however, I think it is important to at
least have some context in order to explain the differences and similarities between
de Pizan’s and today’s rhetorics. In most places, women are a marginalized
people, and as such, one of the most powerful forms of strength they can find individually
is by coming together as a group. This is a common theme among marginalized
peoples—for example, we really never say “the straight community” but we do say
“the LGBTQ+ community.” When you already have a large amount of influence
within society, there isn’t as much of a need to single out yourself and the people
like you in order to find power. Women should, then, support each other to
ensure the liberation of all women, for, as solo individuals, the same social
power cannot be found. Of course, there is more nuance for each specific group
of people, but the concept of coming together to find strength when society
seeks to strip it away from you answers the question surrounding the need for women
to support each other well enough for the purposes of this discussion.* Now, onto rhetoric.
After reading the excerpt from Christine de Pizan’s work for
class, particularly the section entitled “How it is unbecoming for women to
defame each other or speak evil,” it occurred to me that women, at least some who
are progressive, have felt and encouraged some form of sisterhood among women
for at least hundreds of years. De Pizan wrote that “ladies and women of the
court ought to love and support each other like sisters. They ought not to
quarrel with one another in the ladies’ apartments, nor betray each other
behind their backs like fishwives, for such things are extremely unbecoming at
the court of a Princess, and they ought not to be allowed,” (The Treasure of
the City of Ladies). De Pizan insists that women love and support one
another—which very closely mirrors the third wave notion of “girls supporting
girls.” Despite three waves of feminism since de Pizan’s time on earth, American
feminism is still trying to normalize the same social bonds she wrote about.
There are differences between the old and new philosophies,
however; for many feminists, the motivation behind “women supporting women” diverges from de Pizan's motivation. If the quote ended after “like sisters,” we might be able to
say that de Pizan could fit right alongside the third wave feminists. However,
she continues, giving more detail for the reasoning behind her stance—this is where
we can see these differences. She writes that women should emulate or seek to
behave as princesses, not fishwives. Hmmm. She then attributes very different
qualities to these two types of women. First, she writes earlier in the book
that princesses are “mild” and “pure.” The lower-class woman, however, is quarrelsome
and not to be trusted because she is apt to betray others.
Why draw this line between them? The main difference between
a princess and a fishwife is social standing. We all know what a princess is—a royal
and rich woman, among other things. A fishwife, on the other hand, sells fish,
so she is probably not rich, and she is certainly not royal. The morality and
worth, then, of these women are determined by their standing within society,
not their personhood. This is the main difference between the implications of
de Pizan’s rhetoric and the goal of the feminist rhetoric of today. In modern
words, de Pizan’s writings are not intersectional. Today’s intersectional feminists,
on the other hand, seek to liberate all women when they use the phrase “girls
supporting girls.” They, especially younger women, seek to support and find community with other women
regardless of background by invoking this phrase.
However, not all feminists are on the same page—liberal,
middle class, white feminists, often dubbed simply “white feminists,” are still
in de Pizan’s mindset when they appeal to sisterhood. They seek to liberate the
women who look like them, and they twist the meaning of third wave feminism to
do so. A specific example of this can be found in the reaction to the
announcement of Amy Coney Barrett’s supreme court nomination. Many leftist
activists were against this choice—she has a history of regressive views, so if
she were to replace Ruth Bader Ginsburg, important rulings such as Roe v. Wade
could be overturned. Many centrist and liberal women were upset by this
reaction, claiming that women need to “uplift each other” no matter what. This rhetoric
essentially co-opted the phrase “women supporting women,” because the need for
women to support each other doesn’t mean blindly extending approval to every
woman. Rather, it means all women need to come together and unify against
oppression, no matter their race, sexuality, occupation, etc.. When a woman
participates in extending oppression, as in Barrett’s case, her agenda should
no longer be supported—it doesn’t matter that she’s a woman, she still seeks to
do harm, rather than good according to feminist thought.
So, that brings us to the problem with the phrase “girls
supporting girls”: it is entirely too vague to be the motto of the movement. It
is incredibly easy to bend the meaning of the message to support an agenda it
was never meant to support. Conservative women are able to call feminists
hypocritical because they can purposefully misunderstand the phrase. Their
argument becomes, “well, if you’re not supporting me, a woman, how can you say
your support all women? You feminists are oppressive after all!” Such rhetoric
weakens the feminist movement by persuading centrists, who otherwise might be
interested in feminist thought, to believe that feminists are indeed the angry,
bra-burning women the second wave warned them about (side note, why do people hate
that image? Seems badass to me—but I digress.) It’s also very easy to do the
bare minimum and still say you’re living up to the expectations set by feminism
if this is the phrase by which you judge your own activism. Did you
compliment a woman today? Yes? Wow, you must be a feminist queen! “Girls
supporting girls” as the cornerstone of third wave philosophy allows feminists
to avoid deeper thought and meaningful, community-driven action. Thus this motto
is perhaps doing more harm than good as one of the main ways feminism is being
marketed to the masses.
That’s not to say the thought behind the phrase is bad—it’s a
good notion for women to support one another, even if the action is as small as
complimenting one another. Sisterhood is important for the movement’s future.
However, not everyone reads into subjects before forming opinions about them—people
read the headline or watch the first few seconds of a video and continue with
their day. This means that people outside of social movements such as feminism
can easily misunderstand what the movement is about, especially if the rhetoric
surrounding the activism is unclear. For this reason, a movement’s rhetoric
needs to portray the goals of the movement accurately and specifically. For
example, many of the Black Lives Matter protests which happened this summer
(and continue to happen even now) use(d) the phrase “no justice, no peace.”
This is clear and specific—if there is no justice for those who have been
harmed, there will never be peace within society. If feminists want to continue
to make political progress, they need to develop the rhetoric which is seen by
the masses to a similar state of specificity. Otherwise, women with views like Christine
de Pizan, such as Barrett sympathizers, can continue to co-opt the movement. It’s
not enough to say “women should love and support one another”; there are too
many potential meanings to be had in this phrase. If you are Christine de Pizan
or a “white feminist,” this means women in the upper class should stick
together to behave in a way which is acceptable to the patriarchy, whereas, to
intersectional feminists, this sentiment means unifying to end oppression.
These are two completely different goals, so it is important for modern
feminists to create a new face for our activism if we are to continue to
progress an intersectional feminist agenda.
*I want to quickly point out that there is a history of
division between Black feminists and White feminists in this ideology. White
feminists, as people with privilege in regard to their race, have not done a
good job of including Black women in the movement for women’s rights at any
point within the feminist struggle. This has caused many Black women to feel
alienated from the “sisterhood” White women champion as being one of feminism’s
greatest goals. This is one of the pitfalls of the vague phrase “girls
supporting girls” I was referring to when I said the execution isn’t always
beneficial. Moving forward, White women need to do better to include Black
women, as well as all women of color, in feminist circles, where White women still
hold quite a bit of power despite the emphasis on intersectionality and
equality in the modern movement.